Monday, April 13, 2020


Leadership Thought: From a Foot Washing to a Fire.

Dear Friends, 

In yesterday’s “Leadership Thought” we looked at a foot washing ‘service’ where Jesus provided a visual lesson on humility as he knelt beside his disciples with towel and basin in hand and washed their feet. 

Today we meet Peter, one of those foot washed disciples, sitting before a fire, his feet clean but his heart divided. He wants to be close to Jesus without being connected to Jesus. He is ready to go and die with him and yet we see him as he openly denies Him. We see him sitting in the courtyard warming himself beside a fire as he mingles with the enemy, and yet only a few moments earlier with sword in hand he's lopping off the ear of one of the Roman soldiers dispatched to arrest him. Will he die with Jesus as he says he is willing to do or will he deny Him as he does?

Who is this Peter? Unfortunately, the answer is that he is a lot like us.

This morning as I was reflecting on those last hours before Jesus journeyed to the Cross, I thought of those poignant words in Luke 22:54: “Peter followed Him at a distance.”

It is tempting for us to be one of those followers of Jesus, who like Peter, prefers sitting down with the crowd rather than standing up to the crowd, being a silent witness rather than a speaking witness.

Listen to what pastor John Courson writes in his commentary: “Praying in the Garden, Jesus was sweating.”
Sleeping in the garden, Peter was cold. The difference between being hot and cold is simply prayer. To warm himself, Peter sat down at the enemy’s fire. So, too, if you are following Jesus from a distance you will feel a chill inside, and you’ll go back to the old places, the old ways to get warm. The problem is, when you warm yourself at the enemy’s fire, like Peter, you’ll get burned.” John Courson’s Application Commentary P. 408-409. 


This Good Friday might be a good time for all of us to spend some time praying and pondering  the question, “How am I following Jesus?” While we may remain “socially distanced” from one another, let make sure that our heart is never spiritually distanced from Him.

Happy Easter!

Yours in faith and friendship,
Tom


Leadership Thought: Who Wants Their Feet Washed?



Dear Friend

Which would you rather do? Have your feet washed or wash the feet of someone else?  I can hear your thinking; “Pastor Tom, I don’t want anyone washing my feet, and I certainly am not about  to wash someone else’s dirty feet. 

I guess if I had to choose between being “the washer” and “the washee (surprisingly enough spell check refused to recognize this word),” I would do the washing, only because I like to be in control. But either way, I must confess there is something that makes me a little uneasy about the act.

I still remember the first foot washing service I attended, and how discomforting it was for me to have my feet washed. But if I was uncomfortable for me, how do you think those disciples of Jesus must have felt as the Savior of the world bowed down before them with towel and basin in hand and began to wash their feet. If I had been Jesus, I might have been tempted to wash a few feet, maybe Peter’s or Judas’ with a brillo pad, but then again, I am not very much like Jesus, I am sorry to say.

I have been studying the wonderful little book of 1 Peter for over a month now, and I have been through it again and again (It seems to take me a lot longer to digest God's truth than most of you). 

And interesting enough of the five chapters I could have studied, it was my turn to study chapter 5 this morning, a chapter that has so much to say about the subject of humility.

Peter tells us to “Be submissive to one another and be clothed with humility for God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Therefore, humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time. (1 Peter 5:5-6).

Today some churches are celebrating Maundy Thursday, the day commemorating Jesus’ last Passover supper with His disciples. This supper concluded with a lesson in “Towel and Basin” theology (John 13:1-11). 

Any takers for some foot washing? If we are submitted to the Lord, then we will be submitted to the things He taught, and even if you are in a church that doesn’t practice this tradition, you’re not exempt from being a foot washer. 

Jesus needs plenty of them and if this is your occupation you will never have to worry about standing in the unemployment line.

And always remember, "It is always good to start out at the bottom of everything except in learning to swim."

Who will you serve today and how will you serve them?

Happy  Maundy Thursday.

Yours in faith and friendship,
Tom


Wednesday, April 8, 2020


Leadership Thought: Who Are You 'Phoning' for Easter Dinner?

Dear Friends,

How many of you remember the name Jim Bakker? Jim was a well-known televangelist in the 70’s and 80's. Together, with his wife Tammy Faye, who died in1992, they built a tremendous television following through the ministry of the PTL (Praise the Lord)  network. Jim was convicted of fraud and spent a number or years in prison and when released he owed the IRS over 6 million dollars.  After his prison release, he reestablished himself in Christian broadcasting, and he now hosts his own television morning show which I happened to watch a bit this morning.

     Jim hurt a lot of people and made lot of enemies as result of his poor business decisions and his unethical behavior, and in so doing  he gave a black eye to Christian broadcasting. When he was released from prison, he had few friends and hardly anyone willing who was willing to give him a second chance,  save one family, the Grahams. 

      Bakker tells how the Grahams received him and helped him get started all over again.  “When I was transferred to my last prison, Franklin Graham, (Billy Graham's son)  said he wanted to help me out with a job, and a car and a house to live in. It was my fifth Christmas in prison.  I thought it over and said,  'Franklin, you can’t do this. It will hurt you. The Grahams don’t need my baggage.' He looked at me and said 'Jim, you were my friend in the past and you are my friend now. If anyone doesn’t like it, I’m looking for a fight.'  So, when I got out of prison, the Grahams sponsored me and paid for a house for me to live in and gave me a car to drive.",

     "The first Sunday out, Ruth called the halfway house I was living in at the Salvation Army and asked permission for me to go with them to the Montreat Presbyterian Church where they attended. When I got there, the pastor welcomed me and sat me with the Graham family. There were two whole rows of them. I think every Graham aunt and uncle and cousin were there. The organ began playing and the church was full, except for a seat next to me. The doors opened and in walked Ruth Graham. She walked down the aisle and sat next to inmate 07407-0058. I had only been out of prison for 48 hours, but she told the world that morning that Jim Bakker was her friend. 

     After the service she had me up to their cabin for dinner. When she asked me for my address, I pulled this envelop out of my pocket to look for it. In prison you are not allowed to have a wallet, so you just carry an envelope with you. She asked me, 'Don’t you have a wallet', and I said, 'Well, yes, this envelope is my wallet.' After five year of brainwashing in prison you think your envelope is your wallet. She walked into the other room and came back and said, 'Here’s one of Billy’s wallets. He doesn’t need it You can have it.'"

     What a beautiful lesson in hospitality. As you think about Easter this Sunday, it would be wonderful if you could practice the art of hospitality by inviting someone to your home for dinner you would not normally ask, someone like a Jim Bakker who may need  a reminder that there is someone out there who loves and cares for them. 

     But because this Easter, you and l will be practicing the art of “social distancing," such an invitation will be impossible. However, you could use your phone as an instrument of hospitality. I encourage each of us this Easter Sunday   to think about  person or two we could call to let them know that we are thinking of them and that we love and appreciate them.

     Want an example besides the Grahams to encourage you in this endeavor? Why not turn to Luke 14:12-14 where Jesus to said to His host who had invited Him to dinner, 'When you give a  dinner or  supper, do not ask your friends, your brothers, your relatives, nor rich neighbors, lest they also invite you back, and you be repaid. But when you give a  feast, invite the poor, the maimed, the lame, the blind. And you will be blessed, because they cannot repay, for you shall be repaid at the resurrection of the just."

    Who will you call?

    Yours in faith and friendship,
    Pastor Tom

Leadership Thought: Friends That Have Changed My Life.

Dear Friends,

A few months ago, before the days of Covid 19 and self-quarantining and toilet paper runs, (maybe "trips" would be a more appropriate word), I had breakfast with a young man from South Africa, who happened to be a world champion squash player. He had come to the Jersey Shore to help operate a sports facility which included a  racquet  club. He and his wife are members of another church in our area, but they lived near our church, and so one Sunday they decided to drop by and visit our church at New Monmouth.

I was intrigued by his South African accent, and his  interest in the sport of squash, which is certainly not one of the most popular games in our country, and so with these things in mind, I found, it offered me a perfect excuse to invite him to join me for breakfast. We spent much of our time talking about his life in South Africa, his interest in squash, and above all, his faith in Jesus and how that faith had impacted his life. 

Toward the close of our conversation, we found ourselves talking about books, and he asked me to share with him some of the books that had impacted my life.  By the way, looking for a good small group question why not ask someone to tell you the three favorite books they have read, but that’s a conversation for another day.

Books are my friends and I have a lot of those friends sitting around on my home and office bookshelves. Many of these friends have been hanging around  for a long period of time, but I have not yet gotten to  know them. But maybe someday, when circumstances are just right, and I find myself with some time on my hands, and I have few social distractions to consume me, I will sit down and get to  know one of these unmet friends.

Wow, it just hit me! Maybe now is just the time to make that new friend. I could use this time to pull a few “friends” off f my shelves and spend some time getting to know them.

Well, having just self-suggested one of the next possible activities for my day, let me take you back to my breakfast friend who asked me about books that had impacted my life. A few days later I sent him “Tom’s Top Ten” and for any of you who are still  interested, I offer the list to you in no particular order, with one exception. As a pastor, I would probably get a lot of negative e-mails if I didn’t place the bible at the top of my list, so here goes if you are still interested: “Tom’s Top Ten”  

1 The Bible. Of course, a given, and let me suggest you use this time to read it from beginning to end. If you do, I think it may just become your greatest friend

2 The Joy of Encouragement, David Jeremiah

3 The Complete 101 Leadership Collection, John Maxwell

4 The Purpose Driven Life, Rick Warren

5 The Effective Father, Gordon McDonald

6 Streams in the Desert, (Devotional) L.B.Cowman

7 The Treasure Principle, Randy Alcorn

8 You 'Gotta' Keep Dancing, Tim Hansel

9 Finishing Strong, by Steve Farrar

10 New and Old Testament Commentaries by John Courson

Well, now that I have suggested some friends you might like to meet during our Corona interlude, why not let me know about one or two of your favorite friends that you think I  might want to add to my own “Friend’s List? 

Yours in Faith and friendship,
Tom

Leadership Thought: The Rabbi's Gift.

The story below is one of my favorites told by Scott Peck in his book The Different Drum. It has always challenged me to think about what people see in me as they watch me live out my life. What reminded me of the story was a few weeks ago I received an encouraging letter from Mike, one of my former students in a Spiritual Leadership class I taught while serving at Calvary Chapel, Old Bridge NJ, several years ago.  In his letter he mentioned some things he appreciated about the class, and he identified some of the quotes he has memorized and some of the principles he had learned. And then he mentioned this story, and he even sent me a photo of it to remind me of what it had meant to him. I share it with you this morning in hopes it will speak to you as it spoke to this young man, and as it continues to speak to me throughout my lifetime.  



The Rabbi's Gift

There was a famous monastery, which had fallen on very hard times.  Formerly its many buildings were filled with young monks and its big church resounded with the singing of the chant, but now it was deserted.  People no longer came there to be nourished by prayer.  A handful of old monks shuffled through the cloisters and praised their God with heavy hearts.

On the edge of the monastery woods, an old rabbi had built a little hut.  He would come there from time to time to fast and pray.  No one ever spoke with him, but whenever he appeared, the word would be passed from monk to monk.  “The rabbi walks in the woods.”  And, for as long as he was there, the monks would feel sustained by his prayerful presence.

One day the abbot decided to visit the rabbi and to open his heart to him.  So, after the morning Eucharist, he set out through the woods.  As he approached the hut, the abbot saw the rabbi standing in the doorway, his arms outstretched to welcome.  It was as though he had been waiting there for some time.  The two embraced like long lost brothers.  Then they stepped back and just stood there, smiling at one another with smiles there faces could hardly contain.

After a while, the rabbi motioned the abbot to enter.  In the middle of the room was a wooden table with the Scriptures open on it.  They sat there for a moment, in the presence of the Book.  Then the rabbi began to cry.  The abbot could not contain himself.  He covered his face with his hands and began to cry too.  For the first time in his life, he cried his heart out.  The two men sat there like lost children, filling the hut with their sobs and wetting the wood of the table with their tears.

After the tears had ceased to flow and all was quiet again, the rabbi lifted his head.  “You and your brothers are serving God with heavy hearts,” he said.  “You have come to ask a teaching of me.  I will give you a teaching, but you can only repeat it once.  After that, no one must ever say it aloud again.”

The rabbi looked straight at the abbot and said, “The Messiah is among you.”

For a while, all was silent.  Then the rabbi said, “Now you must go.”

The abbot left without a word and without looking back.

The next morning, the abbot called his monks together in the chapter room.  He told them he had received a teaching from “the rabbi who walks in the woods” and that this teaching was never again to be spoken aloud.  Then he looked at each of his brothers and said, “The rabbi said that one of us is the Messiah.”

The monks were startled by this saying, “What could it mean?” They asked themselves, “Is Brother John the messiah?  Or Father Matthew?  Or Brother Thomas?  Am I the Messiah?  What could this mean?”

They were all deeply puzzled by the rabbi’s teaching.  But no one ever mentioned it again.

As time went by, the monks began to treat one another with a very special reverence.  There was a gentle, wholehearted, human quality about them now, which was hard to describe but easy to notice.  They lived with one another as men who had finally found something.  But they prayed the scriptures together as men who were always looking for something.  Occasional visitors found themselves deeply moved by the life of these monks.  Before long, people were coming from far and wide to be nourished by the prayer life of the monks and young men were asking, once again, to become part of the community.

In those days, the rabbi no longer walked in the woods.  His hut had fallen into ruins.  But, somehow or other, the old monks who had taken his teaching to heart still felt sustained by his prayerful presence.”

I hope that you have appreciated this story as Mike and I have. If it has touched your heart,  would you continue to share it by living like the One who still walks among us, and whose life and love is still visible in those outstretched arms pinioned to a wooden cross beam that shouts "no one is ever too unworthy to be received and embraced by my arms of love,"

Have  blessed weekend,

Yours in faith and fellowship,

Tom 

Leadership Thought: Starve Your Fears and Feed Your Faith or "Which Wolf Are You Feeding?”

Dear Friend,

There is an old German Proverb that states, “Fear makes the wolf bigger than he is.”

There is a lot of fear circulating around us these days; empty shelves reinforce our fears that we better stock up for the worst is yet to come. The news reinforces our fears with constant reports of mounting death tolls. Masks have become a part of our new apparel, and social distancing has become the new norm. 

What can we do to escape this paralyzing fear?

An Old Cherokee Tale of Two Wolves provides the answer. “One evening an old Cherokee Indian told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, ‘My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

The other is good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.’ 

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: ‘Which wolf wins?’

The old Cherokee simply replied, ‘The one you feed.’ 

If we feed our faith, fear loses. If we feed your fears, faith loses. Faith and fear cannot co-exist. One will always win, and the winner will be determined by whom we feed.

David had the choice when going through the dark night of his soul, and he chose to feed his faith. In a time of great spiritual anguish, he cries out  “When I am afraid, I will trust in you.” Ps. 56:3

If, like David, we choose to feed our faith with God’s word, we’ll starve our fears. Open the Word today and spend some time listening to Him and be reminded that “If God is for us, who can be against us?” Philippians 4:7

In closing, I remind you of the words of the great preacher and writer Alexander Maclaren who wrote “Only he who can say, ‘The Lord is the strength of my life,’ can say, ‘Of whom shall I be afraid?’”

Yours in faith and friendship,
Tom





Leadership Thought: Hope Needed, Or the Day This Pastor Screamed, “ Turn it Off, Turn It Off.”

Dear Friends, 

The other day I walked into the room, took one look at the television screen, and screamed as loud as I could “Shut it off, shut it off.” (yes, pastors do scream occasionally)  The television was on a station that will go nameless, but one which seems unable to  broadcast anything but the worst scenario it could imagine about what it is reporting.  For them it seems that the “sky is always falling.”

Forgive me if I am too much of a “pie in the sky kind of  person,” but I wonder why so much that is now coming across the airwaves make you cringe and want to crawl up  into a ball and hide?

Yesterday, in  part of the President’s daily interview, he lashed out at the extreme negativity of  so many whose eyes are closed to even the smallest hint of progress (good news) the kind  that might engender some degree of hope. Our nation is starved for hope and yearning for something that will lift our spirts, but they aren’t going to get it through the air ways.

“Leaders,” said Napoleon, “ are dealers in hope", and I sure wish we had a few more Napoleons hanging around our television stations.

My kids have Jean and I  quarantined, and they won’t let mom and dad travel outside the house. Like all of you are in similar situations, it is not fun, and at times it has proved challenging, but like all other crises we have had, and we have had plenty (33 national crises or disasters in the last 40 years)-  anthrax, sars, west Nile virus, swine flu, zika, e coli, bird flew, oil crises, Viet Nam,Y2K, Enron, Twin Towers, and Isis are just a  few to refresh your memories- and like each of them “This too shall pass.”

I don’t know who said it but he or she was right when they said "Every  adversity carries with it the seed of equal or greater benefit," bit I would add that this is true only if one harbors the right perspective

Measles and polio were devastating diseases, but if we hadn’t lived through  them, we would never have vaccines that guard us against them. Tragedy can lead to triumph, but only if we possess the right perspective.  Not every light one sees at the end of a tunnel is on a train; it just might be a different light, one  that offers freedom from our fears and hope for our heavy and hurting hearts.

I wish The Apostle Paul were alive today, and could broadcast our news. He has recorded some positive and hopeful words that all of us would do well to memorize. His life was far from worry free. Hunted down, stoned, imprisoned, and in danger of facing death, he writes “Finally brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy-meditate on these things. The things which put you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you” (Philippians 4:8-9) 

I close by introducing you to  a little boy who has a lot to teach us about living with adversity. He was overheard talking to himself as he strutted through the backyard wearing his baseball cap and toting a ball and bat: “I’m the greatest hitter in the world,” he announced.

Then he tossed the ball into the air, swung at it and missed.

“Strike One!” he yelled. Undaunted he picked up the ball again and said,  “I’m the greatest hitter in the world!”

He tossed the ball into the air. When it came down, he swung  and missed.  “Strike Two!” he cried.

The boy then paused a moment to examine his bat and ball carefully. He spit on his hands and rubbed them together. He straightened his hat and said once more “I’m the greatest hitter in the world!”

Again, he tossed the ball up in the air and swung at it. He missed. “Strike Three!”

He looked up to the sky and exclaimed, “Wow! I am the greatest pitcher in the world.”

May more of us be like this little boy, like the Apostle Paul, and like everyone who knows the recipe for making lemonade out of lemons.

Yours in faith and friendship,
Tom