Leadership Thought: Are You a Pro Active Communicator?
The
key to connecting with people is to be proactive, to be the first one to
initiate the conversation. “Hello, my name is Tom. What is yours?” or “I
don’t think I know you, could you tell me your name?”
To
take the initiative in greeting someone may seem a little awkward or
uncomfortable for you if you are on the introverted side, but once you do it a
few times you will become more comfortable in initiating that conversation. You
will be surprised by how many friends you will make doing this. Relationships
must have a beginning, and if you’ll ‘make the first move’ you may discover you
are talking to your next best friend.
I have
found a helpful way of building on your initial greeting and that is to ask the
person, “Tell me your story.” They may look at you rather strangely, perhaps
even puzzled, and then I might add. “ I’d love to hear more about you. Tell me
what brought you here this morning?”
This
morning, I had breakfast with one of my best friends who is a hospice chaplain,
and he told me he always seeks to do a “life review” with everyone he
visits for the first time. He wants to hear the person share important events
or experiences that have shaped and impacted his/her life. In doing so,
he often finds common ground that he and the one visited can build on.
There
is a significant story to be learned from everyone you meet, but you may never
discover that story unless you take the first step in initiating the
conversation.
As Oprah
Winfrey has said, “everyone has the need to be seen and heard,” and good
listeners are adept at connecting with people by exercising good listening
skills.
By
the way the person I rode to breakfast with this morning was a person I led to
Christ almost thirty years ago, largely by asking good questions and then being
careful to be a good listener.
‘Hit
and run evangelism’ can sometimes work, but more often than not most people
come to Christ through relationships, or friendship evangelism, which is built
upon extensive conversations with a friend who listens and cares before sharing
his/her faith. At least that’s been my experience. What is yours?
Yours
in faith and friendship,
Tom
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