Leadership Thought: Is Your Church Really a Friendly Church?
Dear Friends,
Not everyone comes to church like a recent first-time
visitor who visited our church. The greeter, recognizing a nervousness about
him, did everything he could to make him feel comfortable. He introduced
himself, told the visitor how glad he was that he had taken the time to visit,
and then proceeded to walk him into the church while looking for someone else
to introduce him to. The person happened to be our audio-visual director who
was standing with her 92-year-old mother. The mother, sensing the visitor's
high level of anxiety, simply put her hand on his back in an effort to calm and
comfort him. With that loving touch, our visitor burst into tears and cried
out, " I need Jesus."
The greeter, who was still standing by, then
introduced him to one of our pastors who prayed with him and then he walked him
over and introduced him to one of our elders who invited him to sit with him
during the service.
The young man related he had recently
purchased a bible and had been reading through the New Testament. He had just
read about Jesus being baptized by John and recognizing the word Baptist in our
church name- we are the New Monmouth "Baptist" Church- he decided to
visit and find out more about what it meant to be Baptist.
So much for the word 'Baptist' being a
pejorative description that might frighten some from attending our
church; instead, it turned out to be the very reason our friend walked through
our doors.
The irony of this was he did so, not knowing
we were a non-denominational church which had left the denomination over 30
years ago.
I shared this story to point out how
important it is for church members to look for visitors and then go out of
their way to make them feel comfortable.
Long ago I remember reading that if someone
new visits your church and leaves having been introduced to at least five
people, there is a ninety percent chance they will return a second time to
worship.
I often tell people that “every member is a
minister.” Ministry takes place from the pulpit to the pew, and from the pew to
the pulpit, but it also takes place from the pew to the pew as members reach
out and share the love of Christ with one another.
I always try to impress our church that body
life (caring for one another) is the life of the body. A church is not a
church where members don’t love and care for one another
Our first goal in communicating with guests
(and by the way I never call them visitors) is to help them relax and feel
comfortable. Sharing the love of Christ within the body is the
responsibility of every member.
I encourage people to pray before walking
through the church doors-and part of that prayer should be "Lord help me
be used to minister love to someone I will meet today. Ask the Lord to help
overcome your shyness and step out in faith and find someone in the body you
can care for and don’t leave the service until you do so.
If your church is not growing, maybe it is
because you are not friendly enough
"Oh, but Tom, our church is a friendly
church." Is it, or is it just friendly to people who have been attending
for 15 years or more? What about the new person who visits? Will he/she feel it
is friendly? Will they leave after having been introduced to at least five new
people
When you meet and converse with someone new
to the church don't leave them after talking with them. No, introduce them to
someone else who will hopefully do the same by finding someone else to
introduce them to.
In one church I know the pastor introduces
the service with these words: "If this is your first time here, we're glad
you're here. We want you to take a deep breath, sit back, relax, and enjoy the
service."
In other services the pastor may ask the
congregation to turn around and give someone a hug or a handshake. This hug or
handshake may be the only physical touch they get all week, and we know that
human beings need touch. Introducing yourself to one another provides a great
way to help raise the comfort level for your guests.
Whether or not you wear an official greeter
badge does not exempt you from finding someone who is present and taking the
initiative to make them feel glad they came. Yes, you hold the key to making
someone feel welcomed, valued, and accepted.
The next time you see someone new in church,
walk up and introduce yourself and imagine that they have a sign hanging around
their neck that says, "Please help me feel important."
Don't miss your Sunday ministry, it may be
the most important ministry you'll ever have.
Yours in faith and friendship,
Tom
P.S. Pastor Rich Warren writes "A guest's
first 12 minutes dramatically influences whether they're coming back or not.
You never get a second chance to make a first impression."
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