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Leadership Thought: Everyone of Us Should Learn the
Donkey Principle
Dear Friends,
Everyone should read
this story:
One day, a Donkey and a Tiger got into an
argument over the color of the grass. “The grass is blue,” said the Donkey. “That’s ridiculous,” replied the Tiger. “The
grass is clearly green.” When the argument grew more and more
intense, they decided to find the Lion, King of the Jungle, to settle the
debate. When they approached the Lion, the Donkey
exclaimed, “Your Highness, isn’t it true that the grass is blue?” “Yes,” the Lion calmly answered, “The grass
is blue.” Not yet satisfied, the Donkey continued,
“The Tiger disagrees and argues with me. You must punish him.” The Lion nodded, “I will. The Tiger will be
punished with a year of silence.” The Donkey walked off into the jungle,
celebrating his victory. Before the Tiger turned to leave, he looked
up at the Lion. “Your Highness, why have you punished me? After all, you must
see the grass is clearly green.” The Lion nodded, “Yes, of course the grass
is green.” “Then why am I being punished?” asked the
Tiger. “Because someone as wise as you should never
waste time proving anything to a fool.” Let’s call its lesson The Donkey Principle: There will be times in your life when you’re
drawn into a discussion with someone who has no capacity to act in good
faith. They have no intention of listening to your
position or changing their mind. They just want to argue. In those moments, you can choose to opt out. Stop justifying your position to people who
show no willingness to hear it. Stop trying to create understanding with
those who appear determined to misunderstand. Stop chasing rational outcomes
with irrational opponents. The older I get, the more I realize peace
has a price. You buy it by saying no. No to drama. No to noise. No to
arguments. Each no creates space for the yes that truly matters. Actor Keanu Reeves said it best: “I'm at the stage in life where I stay out
of arguments. Even if you say 1+1=5, you're right. Have fun.” We live in a modern world where social media
makes it easier than ever to get pulled into pointless fights. No matter your
views or beliefs, someone will make it their mission to drag you into the
metaphorical mud. Before you enter any debate, ask yourself
two questions: 1. Does this person show a willingness to
listen and change their mind? 2. What evidence would cause me to change
mine? The first question ensures good faith on
their part. The second ensures it on yours. As the old saying goes, “Never wrestle a pig
in the mud. You both get dirty—but the pig will enjoy it.” Perhaps this is all best summarized with one
simple line:
If you argue with a fool, you become one.
Your in faith and friendship,
Tom
P.S. Thanks to Clint Hurdle who shares the
truth of This Excellent Lesson
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